{"id":8708,"date":"2021-08-03T02:43:00","date_gmt":"2021-08-03T02:43:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/?p=8708"},"modified":"2026-10-02T01:34:39","modified_gmt":"2026-10-02T01:34:39","slug":"best-way-to-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/?p=8708","title":{"rendered":"BEST WAY TO CHANGE"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Just finished reading this book:<\/p>\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/20210802_205752-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1016\" height=\"1355\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">My verdict: It is excellent and well worth a read. I plan to put the information inside to the test in both my personal life and my classroom.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">One point in particular that caught my eye and made me think:<\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Author BJ Fogg, a behavior researcher at Stanford University, says people &#8220;change best by feeling good, not by feeling bad&#8221;.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As the saying goes, this is BIG if true.<\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For the parent, the teacher, the boss, and the self,\u00a0Fogg is not just saying that the carrot is more effective than the stick.<\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We often DO use the stick &#8211; &#8220;feeling bad&#8221; &#8211; on our kids, our students, our co-workers, or our selves. We, and all the world, often rely on inflicting guilt and shame, both to stop bad behavior or to encourage good behavior.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Time and again, it doesn&#8217;t work as well as we hope.<\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Maybe it&#8217;s time to focus on the &#8220;feeling good&#8221; over the &#8220;feeling bad&#8221;. But in Fogg&#8217;s thinking, the &#8220;feeling good&#8221; is not about a carrot in the traditional sense, not a reward for doing the right thing: a lollipop for finishing the homework, a bonus for meeting a deadline, or a new outfit for sticking to the diet.<\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Those things can be motivating certainly. But Fogg seems to have in mind a more basic &#8220;feeling good&#8221; &#8211; the internal feeling of success. Feeling good about one&#8217;s self.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This sounds right to me. And it seems like the kind of idea that has much bigger ramifications than are obvious on first look.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Just finished reading this book: My verdict: It is excellent and well worth a read. I plan to put the information inside to the test in both my personal life and my classroom.\u00a0 One point in particular that caught my eye and made me think: Author BJ Fogg, a behavior researcher at Stanford University, says [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":8709,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8708","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8708","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8708"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8708\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8710,"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8708\/revisions\/8710"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/8709"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8708"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8708"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stevegrossblog.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8708"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}